Cam Girl Stalara Mynx Gets Real About Camming, Fetishes, Fans & Sex Work | Cam Girl Diaries #77

Full Episode Transcript

Gary: Welcome to Cam Girl Diaries! Welcome, everyone. Co-hosting with me tonight is Lilly Leclare, and our guest is Stalara Mynx.

Lilly: Stalara.

Gary: Stalara. I’m sorry.

Stalara: It’s fine.

Gary: I did this an episode ago, too. I’m sorry. It brings the viewers, though. It shows that we’re real.

Stalara: Yeah.

Gary: It’s Stalara. I like that. “Stellar Wings.” That’s original.

Stalara: I like it.

Gary: So, for all your links and everything, is it Stalara Mynx?

Stalara: No. I kind of put the name together. I use “St. Mynx” as my username. It’s basically “St” from the beginning of Stalara and then Mynx. For my actual name on there, I would use Stalara Mynx.

Gary: So, basically an abbreviation.

Stalara: Yeah.

Gary: Nice. That’s good for dyslexic people like me who can’t understand anything.

Stalara: It’s funny because I’m dyslexic too.

Gary: Yeah, that works. So, how long have you been in the game?

Stalara: I’ve been in the game for five and a half years now.

Gary: Wow. You’re a veteran. You’re not new to this shit.

Stalara: No.

Gary: Five and a half years. How the hell did you start?

Stalara: That’s a really weird question. I had this person on Snapchat and I saw that they were doing content. I thought, “Hey, I’ve always wanted to do this. How did you do it?” They taught me, and now I’m either teaching other people or doing it by myself.

Gary: What did you start on?

Stalara: Snapchat. I was a Snapchat premium girl. Then I built up Instagram and Facebook, and eventually went on OnlyFans. I just kept growing from there.

Gary: So, when you started on Snapchat, were you just adding random people who showed up in your suggested friends and they ended up becoming buyers?

Stalara: No. I added this one girl randomly. I was just adding people for the hell of it, and she happened to be a seller. I thought, “Oh, I want to do that.” We did shout-for-shout, people added us, and that’s how we got buyers.

Gary: Wait. How does that actually work? When you say buyers, I’m confused.

Stalara: Basically, I created a menu showing how much my photos and videos cost and what services I offered. People would ask what I had available, and I’d tell them. For example, I could degrade someone for $30, or offer bundles of pictures and videos.

When I was first starting, I could do five pictures and five videos for $10 on Snapchat.

Gary: And that was when you were 18?

Stalara: Yeah. Snapchat wasn’t as known for selling content back then. Nowadays, if you tried doing that, you’d probably get deleted right away.

Gary: Yeah, Snap is definitely risky now.

Stalara: We also had to verify everybody because there were people who were minors pretending to be adults. We’d tell them they had to show ID or otherwise, goodbye.

Gary: What the fuck?

Stalara: Yeah, it’s serious.

Gary: I didn’t know it was that serious.

Stalara: There’s a whole thing I could talk about for hours. There were blacklists. People would post someone’s name and say, “This person did this, this, and this.” It could happen on Snapchat, Telegram, or anywhere people created group chats.

Gary: So Snapchat is where it started for you. Where did you go from there?

Stalara: I moved into Facebook and Instagram, then Telegram. Now I’m trying to get back onto Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and all these other places.

Gary: Facebook? How the hell do you do anything on Facebook? You can’t post anything.

Stalara: That’s what I’m saying. I’ll go on Facebook and see people with their tits out, but if I post something similar, I get deleted or banned.

Gary: Exactly! I see ads on Facebook that are way more sexual than anything I’d be able to post.

Stalara: It’s like the algorithm favors certain people. If you’re getting a lot of views, maybe they leave you alone, but if you’re smaller, you don’t have as much protection.

Gary: Yeah. It doesn’t make any sense.

Lilly: Facebook seems to have completely different standards depending on who’s posting.

Gary: Do you think Facebook is racist, or are they just against sex workers?

Stalara: Honestly, I feel like it’s a little bit of everything.

Gary: Even when I post clips from Cam Girl Diaries, some get flagged. And the other stuff I do with Pervert Pete is comedy, but that gets flagged too.

Lilly: So what can you actually post on Facebook?

Stalara: Basically nothing.

Gary: What about BlueSky? I saw you’re on there. How’s that working for sex work?

Stalara: I’m still trying to figure it out. I only joined about a month ago, and I don’t know anybody who actually does BlueSky. I’ve been trying to find other sellers and figure out how it works, but it hasn’t really gotten me anywhere yet.

I met a girl today who has BlueSky, though, so I’m going to ask her to teach me about it.

Gary: You said you’re doing pole sessions with her?

Stalara: Yeah, stripper pole sessions.

Gary: That sounds fun.

Stalara: Yeah.

Gary: BlueSky seems even worse than Facebook sometimes. I’ve had stuff flagged there too. At one point I held up a hot dog and joked, “You want to see my wiener?” and it got flagged as sexual content.

Stalara: That’s ridiculous.

Gary: I was like, fuck this. I’m not wasting any more time there.

Social Media and Getting Traffic

Gary: Which social media platform brings you the most traffic to your fan pages?

Stalara: Telegram, OnlyFans, or Instagram.

Gary: I’ve heard horror stories about Telegram, especially scammers.

Stalara: Yeah. Telegram and Snapchat can both be terrible.

Gary: So what do you actually do on Telegram?

Stalara: I have a preview channel, a group for other sellers, and groups for shout-outs. If somebody wants to buy something individually, they can DM me directly.

Gary: Why have a group for other sellers?

Stalara: It’s basically my network. Kind of like how you have your podcast and your community for other sellers. We talk to each other, share buyers, post each other, and try to get more views. It’s basically shout-for-shout.

Gary: So you’re sharing customers?

Stalara: Sometimes. It can get tricky, though. You can have people getting upset because they think somebody poached their buyer.

Gary: What does poaching mean in that situation?

Stalara: A seller going directly into somebody else’s buyer’s DMs and saying, “Hey, do you want to buy from me?” They’re supposed to come to you. You shouldn’t be approaching somebody else’s buyer like that.

Gary: I could see the benefit of sharing customers if you’re in different niches. If I’m a BBW creator and you’re doing something completely different, maybe someone who isn’t interested in my content would be interested in yours.

Stalara: Exactly.

Stalara’s Niche

Gary: So what’s your niche?

Stalara: I do a lot of squirting. I’m petite. And I also do neko.

Gary: What the fuck is neko?

Stalara: I don’t even know how to describe it. You’d have to look it up.

Gary: We’re looking it up.

Lilly: Is it neko or neo?

Stalara: Neko.

Gary: Okay. Let’s see what it says.

Gary: Oh! Cat girls.

Stalara: Yeah.

Gary: Like “meow” and the cute little ears?

Stalara: Exactly.

Gary: Do you actually put on the ears and everything?

Stalara: Yes.

Gary: Nice.

Stalara: My cat’s here too.

Gary: What do you call your cat?

Stalara: Milo.

Gary: That’s a respectable name.

Stalara: He’s pretty smart, but also pretty stupid. He runs into doors a lot.

Gary: What the fuck?

Lilly: Is the cat talking?

Stalara: No, that was my boyfriend asking if I wanted him to take the cat away.

Gary: I took an edible earlier, so I was about to believe the cat was actually talking.

The Cat-Girl Era

Lilly: When I was looking at your profile, I noticed how creative you are and some of the fetishes you cater to. I want to hear more about the crossbow and sword play. What is that?

Gary: Yeah, what the hell is that?

Stalara: Crossbow play, sword play, gun play, and taser play.

Gary: You play with tasers?

Stalara: I do.

Gary: I’ve seen videos of people getting tased. That shit does not look fun.

Stalara: I’m a masochist. The fun thing is that I actually like doing it to other people more than doing it to myself. But with the sword, gun, and crossbow, those are things I do to myself.

Gary: What the fuck?

Lilly: You are wild.

Gary: I have an electric wand and an electric whip. So taser play is another level from that?

Stalara: I have a Taser. Yours sounds fun too.

Gary: You people are crazy.

Lilly: Is it dangerous?

Stalara: There are certain places you shouldn’t use it because you could cause serious damage. If you’re being responsible, though, it’s something I enjoy.

Gary: Obviously you wouldn’t shock your… you know.

Stalara: You could, but…

Gary: No, you wouldn’t!

Stalara: Have you ever done it?

Gary: No, but I’ve shocked my kids.

Lilly: Just hearing that hurts me.

Gary: Do people actually request this stuff?

Stalara: That’s the thing. I spend tons of money on this stuff, but people don’t always request it. Sometimes I’m sitting there thinking, “I bought all this stuff for you!”

Lilly: Exactly! I spend money on things nobody asks me for either.

Slutland, Cosplay and Neko

Lilly: What about the creature stuff? Do people specifically request that?

Stalara: They do.

Gary: I did not expect this conversation to go this way.

Lilly: You also have games, like your Slutland game. You’re really creative.

Gary: Wait. Slutland? I want to go there. What’s it like?

Stalara: It’s a whole pool of fun.

Gary: Is it like Disneyland? Do you go on rides? Is there a character like Mickey Mouse?

Stalara: There might be a cat.

Gary: Cat in the Hat?

Lilly: Nice.

Gary: So what do you actually do for the cat stuff?

Stalara: It’s basically cat-girl play. If we were on Zoom, I could pull up one of my pictures and show you.

Gary: Send me one and I’ll put it into the podcast so people understand what we’re talking about.

Stalara: I can send one later.

Gary: Yeah, I’ll put it in during editing.

Gary: What kind of cat are you? A Siamese? A Cornish Rex?

Lilly: You know Cornish Rexes?

Gary: They’re cute!

Stalara: It’s really just a cat outfit. You can find cat ears anywhere. I’ve done leopard cat, maid cat, and regular cat.

Gary: Who doesn’t love a cat?

Stalara: Especially if you act like one.

Gary: What’s the story behind your name?

Stalara: I had a friend who would get me boba all the time. We were really funny and cutesy together, and they’d hear the milk in my stomach. They started calling me “Milk Kitten.”

My name was originally Milkkin 420, but eventually I changed it to Stalara Mynx, or St. Mynx. So I’m still kind of in the cat era.

As for “Stalara,” I got it from a commercial. It was one of those pharmaceutical commercials. I heard the word and liked it, so I made my name from that.

Gary: It sounds like a sexy alien.

Stalara: I have a thing for aliens too.

Gary: Nice.

What Fans Request Most

Gary: What’s your number-one requested fetish? Is it the cat stuff?

Stalara: Honestly, I don’t know if I would categorize it as a fetish, but squirting is the number-one thing people request from me.

Gary: That’s popular.

Stalara: It’s mostly my boy-girl content.

Gary: So that’s content with your boyfriend?

Stalara: Yeah.

Gary: I’m glad Lilly is here because she actually understands the terminology. I’m an outsider. I don’t know what the hell is going on, but I’m fascinated.

Gary: Where are people requesting this stuff? OnlyFans?

Stalara: I have all my socials linked through Linktree. My Telegram, Instagram, Facebook, everything is connected, so people can reach me through any of those platforms.

Gary: So they just DM you?

Stalara: Basically.

Gary: So if somebody sees your content and wants something specific, what are they supposed to say?

Stalara: They could ask, “What are your prices?” or “Can I see your tip menu?”

Gary: So, professional people should say, “Excuse me, ma’am. Can I request your tip menu?”

Stalara: Exactly.

Gary: There you go, guys. If you’re going to contact a cam girl, be respectful and ask for her tip menu.

Stalara’s Tip Menu

Gary: So what’s on your tip menu?

Stalara: I have a whole menu. About five posters worth.

Gary: Holy shit.

Stalara: There’s a whole cosplay section, Dropbox content, content with my boyfriend and other girls, collaborations, threesomes, singles, and miscellaneous things.

Gary: Give us some examples.

Stalara: Some single pictures can be $8, videos can be $15 depending on the size, and there are different options depending on what someone wants.

Gary: And then you have something called “dick tax.”

Stalara: Yeah.

Gary: I don’t know what that is, so please explain.

Stalara: Basically, there’s a picture that someone made where the price is based on the person’s size, and it’s used as a degrading thing.

Gary: So if I have a small dick, I don’t have to pay as much?

Stalara: I think the smaller the better.

Gary: Wait, smaller is cheaper?

Stalara: I think so.

Gary: Or maybe it’s the opposite?

Stalara: It depends on which poster it’s based on. I’d have to look.

Gary: So somebody sends proof of their size?

Stalara: If I were doing it, I’d probably have them send proof after they pay.

Gary: Wait a minute. So I pay first, then send proof?

Stalara: Yes.

Gary: What am I paying for?

Stalara: It’s a dominatrix thing. If you’re not into that, you’re not into that.

Gary: That’s why I don’t understand what’s happening.

Lilly: He’s such a noob.

Gary: All right. Let me try to understand this. If I send you $20, what happens?

Stalara: It depends. I’ll ask if you meant to send it. They’ll usually say they want something from the menu that costs $20, and then I’ll give them the options that add up to that amount.

Sometimes people tip without asking for anything.

Gary: And you actually make sure they got what they paid for?

Stalara: Absolutely. Sometimes people say, “You can just keep it,” and I’m like, “Are you sure?” I’m not trying to scam anybody. I want to play by the books.

Gary: I like that.

Lilly: That’s important. At the end of the day, these people are allowing us to do this work.

Stalara: Exactly.

Gary: Unless somebody specifically wants you to be greedy.

Stalara: There are people who like that. Pay pigs, for example.

Gary: I’ve only met one person like that.

Lilly: Who doesn’t love a pay pig?

Gary: I want one!

Lilly: Start showing your feet.

Gary: No! Feet are gross.

The Foot Fetish Conversation

Gary: Wait. This question is for both of you. Feet?

Stalara: No.

Gary: Thank God. I hate feet.

Lilly: I don’t mind them.

Gary: I’m sure you both have nice feet, but feet are gross.

Lilly: I do show mine.

Gary: I know. I actually cropped your feet out of a picture for a thumbnail because you have nice feet, apparently.

Lilly: Thank you.

Gary: So when guys ask for your feet, do you care?

Lilly: Not really. It’s no big deal.

Gary: Don’t show them now!

Lilly: I’m not going to.

Gary: Good.

Lilly: I mean, I don’t care about feet as long as they’re not touching me. I can do pictures or videos of them, like rubbing lotion on them, but I don’t really want anything beyond that.

Gary: Since doing this job and learning about foot fetishes, do you look at people’s feet differently now?

Lilly: Definitely. It’s almost like seeing somebody flash me. My brain now associates feet with something sexual, and that wasn’t the case before.

Now I’ll see someone’s feet and think, “Wow, she has really nice feet. She could be a foot model.”

Gary: That’s wild.

Lilly: Even in movies and TV shows, I’ll notice when someone’s bare feet are on screen and think, “I hope they got paid extra for this.”

Gary: This game changes you.

Stalara: It definitely depends.

Gary: I’m sure you were both nice, respectable girls before this.

Lilly: We still are!

Gary: I’m kidding.

When Family Finds Out

Gary: Do your family and friends know what you do? Do they have opinions about it?

Stalara: My brother found my OnlyFans and told my parents.

Gary: What the fuck was he doing on your OnlyFans?

Stalara: That’s what I asked him! I asked how he found it, but instead he started shaming me.

Gary: And what did you say?

Stalara: I basically told him he needed to leave because he wasn’t going to treat me like that.

Gary: There’s some hypocrisy there, too. If you’re on OnlyFans looking at content, you’re supporting somebody else who does this.

Lilly: He may have been shocked because you’re his sister, though.

Gary: Yeah. I can understand being shocked, but how you approach somebody matters.

Stalara: Exactly. If he had approached me respectfully and wanted to have a conversation, I would’ve been happy to have it. But disrespect is different.

Lilly: It’s also really hard to stay anonymous now. If you have your phone number connected to platforms and your family has your number, your profile can end up being recommended to people you know.

Gary: So unless you’re using a completely separate device, it can be difficult to stay anonymous.

Lilly: Yeah.

Gary: I can understand where your brother is coming from, but the way he handled it wasn’t right.

Stalara: That’s how I feel too.

Gary: My mom didn’t really understand what I was doing until she watched my first Cam Girl Diaries episode. She was worried that I was pretending to be okay with everything. Then she watched the podcast and realized I genuinely love doing this and that it makes me happy.

Lilly: That’s the thing. People don’t always understand that there can be benefits to this work and that we’re not necessarily being degraded.

Stalara: Sometimes we’re doing the degrading.

Gary: Exactly.

Live Streaming and Fanbase

Gary: Do you do live shows?

Stalara: I used to. I did live shows on OnlyFans, Instagram, Facebook, and Fanbase.

OnlyFans and Fanbase were for sexual content. Instagram and Facebook obviously had to be nonsexual.

Gary: I’ve never heard of Fanbase.

Stalara: It’s a live-streaming app. You can connect your Lovense toys to it.

Gary: Like Chaturbate?

Stalara: You can do similar things with the toys, but Fanbase works differently. You basically create a room and share a link. People join and you can do whatever you want within the platform’s rules.

Gary: Does Fanbase have internal traffic?

Stalara: Not really for me. I promote myself on social media to get people there.

Gary: So you’re still responsible for bringing your own audience.

Stalara: Yeah. And the links expire after 24 hours, so you have to create and repost new links.

Gary: That’s annoying.

Stalara: Exactly. I don’t use Fanbase a lot. I’ve only used it once.

Screen Recording, Watermarks and AI

Gary: Have you done lives on X?

Stalara: I tried. Nobody could really message me while I was live, so I didn’t know where to direct people. I eventually stopped.

Gary: And there’s always the issue of people screen-recording.

Stalara: Exactly.

Gary: We’re watermarking this podcast, but I wish other websites would have better watermarking systems too.

Lilly: The problem is that AI can now remove watermarks. I was watching a video about how easily AI can reconstruct what’s supposed to be behind the watermark.

Stalara: That’s scary.

Gary: Pretty soon, people won’t even need to crop the picture. They’ll just use AI to remove the watermark.

Stalara: What does that mean for DMCA takedowns?

Gary: That’s the problem. If people are using AI to remove watermarks and repost content, you can’t realistically sue everybody.

Lilly: These are things nobody really talks about. What’s the solution?

Stalara: Exactly. Platforms treat us badly, but then people act like we’re the problem.

Lilly: Everybody has their niche. We’re just more open about who we are.

Stalara: Exactly. We’re not putting on a mask 24/7. This is who we are. Accept us, or kick us off your platform.

The No-Face Debate

Stalara: It’s funny because I own ski masks. When I started doing content again, I thought about going completely faceless. But then I realized that if I’m going to make content, I’m probably going to eventually forget and show my face.

Gary: So you figured, fuck it.

Stalara: Exactly.

Lilly: I did no-face for a while when I first started. It worked well for feet content because people could imagine whoever they wanted.

But I think it would be harder to stay completely faceless with all types of content.

Stalara: It was really difficult for me. When I started, I wanted to be no-face and do safer work only. People would bully me about it.

They’d request something, I’d make exactly what they asked for, and then they’d complain that I wasn’t showing my face.

Gary: That’s ridiculous.

Stalara: They’d say things like, “Why isn’t your face in it? I wanted your face, tits, ass, everything.”

Lilly: If somebody knows you’re a no-face performer, why would they expect you to show your face?

Stalara: Exactly.

Gary: If I look at your Instagram and you don’t show your face, I’d assume you don’t show your face.

Lilly: That’s common sense.

Gary: But some guys act like boundaries don’t mean anything.

Stalara: They should just ask.

Gary: Or maybe some of them are trying to create an excuse for a refund. They think, “I’ll buy this, then complain that it wasn’t what I expected.”

Lilly: That’s a good point.

The Strangest Requests

Gary: Lilly, what’s the strangest request you’ve ever gotten?

Lilly: I think the one that still stands out came up in my original interview. Someone sent me their sperm and wanted to play Russian roulette with it.

Gary: That’s hard to top.

Lilly: Definitely.

Gary: Stalara, what about you?

Stalara: I don’t really get asked for super-weird stuff. Most of my requests are squirting because I have those videos and people know I can do it.

Gary: You want to hear one of mine?

Lilly: I knew something crazy was coming.

Gary: Some guy asked me, “Can you squash a bug with your boob?”

Stalara: What?

Gary: That’s exactly what I said.

Lilly: Did you do it?

Gary: Absolutely not.

Stalara: I hate bugs too.

Gary: I didn’t even entertain the question.

Lilly: Maybe he had some kind of giant-woman fetish.

Stalara: Yeah, there are fetishes involving people imagining themselves as tiny compared with a giant woman.

Gary: So this guy wanted to be the bug?

Lilly: Possibly.

Gary: Dudes are weird.

Stalara: Everybody has their thing.

Gary: True. You guys are into some pretty wild stuff too.

Stalara: Gun play, taser play…

Gary: And tentacle porn.

Lilly: There we go.

Gary: A lot of women are into that?

Lilly: Some are.

Gary: I don’t understand it.

Stalara: The more unusual the fetish, the more creative you can sometimes be with your content. That’s what I like about it.

Gary: That’s why I loved looking at your profile. I’m like, “This chick is wild.”

Ski Masks and Unusual Fetishes

Lilly: Do people ask you to wear the ski mask?

Stalara: I’ve only been asked once.

Lilly: I love the pink one you have.

Stalara: I bought a second one because I liked them. I love pink and black, so I thought, fuck it, I’ll buy both.

Gary: But if nobody’s asking for it, why buy more?

Stalara: Exactly. That’s what sucks. Sometimes you have a specific fetish you love and nobody asks for it. You’re sitting there thinking, “But I want to do it!”

Gary: Guys actually ask you to wear ski masks?

Stalara: Sometimes.

Gary: I’ve seen dominatrices wearing those pink ones with sayings on them.

Lilly: Yeah.

Gary: Is that something women can be into too?

Stalara: There are women who have fetishes involving fear, being stalked, or even fantasies around being killed. There are definitely some very unusual rabbit holes you can go down.

Gary: That’s crazy.

Lilly: There can be something arousing about being scared for some people.

Gary: I never thought about that.

When Fans Are Women

Gary: This actually answers a question I’ve had for years. I used to have fans who were women. They’d send me their tits and stuff, and I always assumed they were just being silly or whatever.

Lilly: Some women absolutely can be into it.

Gary: I never thought about that.

Lilly: It’s probably a small percentage, but it definitely exists.

Gary: That makes so much sense now.

Stalara: You may have been arousing women without even realizing it.

Gary: I never thought to ask my wife either. That’s how we met. She was a fan. I never asked her what attracted her to the content.

Lilly: Maybe it was the ski mask.

Gary: Maybe. This is not the place to investigate that.

Stalara: You should probably have that conversation privately.

Gary: Yeah, probably.

Why Pain Can Be Appealing

Gary: You have those nipple clamps too?

Stalara: They’re not exactly clothespins. They’re nipple clamps with a chain.

Gary: What the fuck?

Stalara: I have some with bells and bows.

Gary: That’s cute, I guess.

Gary: So what’s the appeal? You actually enjoy the pain?

Stalara: When you know you’re not actually going to be seriously hurt, pain can be stimulating. Your brain knows you’re okay and that you’re not going to bleed out or suffer serious injury.

When you’re in a safe situation, that pain can sometimes be transformed into pleasure because of how stimulating it is.

Gary: I’ve never heard it explained like that.

Lilly: It makes sense.

Gary: I fucking hate pain.

Stalara: It’s kind of like spanking.

Gary: You like getting spanked?

Lilly: Who doesn’t?

Gary: Me!

Lilly: That’s why I asked.

Gary: Whatever you’re into.

Boundaries and Anal Play

Gary: So what about butt play?

Stalara: That’s basically exit-only for me. I don’t do that.

Gary: Wait. You’ll taser your tits, but you won’t do butt play?

Stalara: Correct.

Gary: That’s crazy to me.

Lilly: That’s how everyone’s brain works differently.

Gary: Exactly. That’s what makes this so weird. You can do one thing that seems completely insane to me, but something else that’s completely normal to me is a hard boundary for you.

Stalara: Exactly.

Lilly: Some people think they won’t like something because they’ve never tried it, and maybe they’d like it if they did.

Gary: I tried it. I don’t ever want to do it again.

Lilly: Fair enough.

Gary: What about you?

Lilly: I don’t like receiving. But I can give. If I were using a strap-on, dildo, or butt plug with somebody else, that’s different. But I don’t want to receive it myself.

Gary: So you’re willing to indulge somebody else’s interest even though you don’t personally enjoy it.

Lilly: Exactly.

Gary: I understand that.

Stalara: That’s how a lot of people’s preferences work.

Gary: I’ll do certain things with a woman, but don’t try doing them to me.

Lilly: Exactly.

Gary: One thing that makes me nervous is seeing porn where people have done certain things a lot. I feel like it could change the way things look.

Stalara: I like the way mine looks now. I don’t want to change it.

Gary: That’s fair.

Lilly: There are definitely things where you want to be careful because you don’t want to cause damage.

Gary: Yeah. That’s a whole subject.

Stalara: I might use plugs occasionally, but I’m not doing certain things people request.

Gary: It’s amazing how different everyone’s boundaries are.

Lilly: Absolutely.

Cody Joins the Conversation

Gary: All right. I think I’m going to send you something for the thumbnail.

Stalara: Nice.

Gary: I’m thinking devil horns because you’re a crazy person.

Stalara: I like that.

Gary: Before we get out of here, though, Cody’s there. I have to ask. How does your boyfriend feel about what you do?

Stalara: He’s open to it.

Cody: I’m supportive of what she does. If somebody respects her, respects her boundaries, and respects her body, then I’m fine with it.

But if somebody disrespects her, bullies her, or treats her like trash, then they have to deal with me.

Gary: Well played, bastard.

Gary: You must have a problem, though, because don’t you get a lot of disrespectful people?

Stalara: That’s part of the game.

Gary: So how do you deal with that, Cody?

Stalara: He doesn’t. I tell him not to.

Cody: I have to respect her when she says not to get involved. That’s important.

But it’s a real pill to swallow when your partner tells you to back off. When you see somebody disrespecting, bullying, or attacking your significant other online, your instinct is to do something.

Gary: I can’t imagine.

Cody: If I could reach through the screen sometimes, I’d be doing some pretty violent things to those people.

Gary: Yeah. I get it.

Cody: But I still have to respect her boundaries. If she tells me not to get involved, I have to listen.

Gary: So part of your job as her partner is to build her back up after people try to tear her down.

Cody: Pretty much.

Sometimes it’s hard because I’ll see her crying over things people have said or posted to her. People will disrespect sex workers while simultaneously trying to buy from them.

It doesn’t make any sense. You’re going onto these platforms, trying to buy from someone, and then insulting the very people you’re trying to purchase from.

Gary: Definitely.

I think part of it is that some of these guys are frustrated. They can’t get what they want in real life, so they use the internet to degrade someone instead.

Cody: Maybe.

Gary: I can’t imagine being in your position, Cody. That’s got to be difficult.

Cody: It is.

Gary: Mad respect to you for being able to handle it.

Cody: Thank you.

Cody: I’m going to leave you guys alone now so you can finish the conversation.

Gary: Thanks for sharing that. That was really good.

Partners Who Support Sex Workers

Lilly: I think it’s important for women doing this work to hear that they don’t have to lose hope when it comes to relationships.

Guys like Cody exist. There are partners who understand the work and support it.

Cody: I support all sex workers. You guys are very talented at what you do. Keep doing what you do.

Gary: And I want to add something to that.

Everything you’re learning in this industry can be used for other things if you ever decide to leave.

You’re entrepreneurs.

Lilly: Absolutely.

Gary: You’re editors. You’re set designers. You’re photographers. You’re marketers. You’re customer service representatives. You’re doing all the things it takes to make a production happen.

Lilly: We have to figure out everything ourselves.

Gary: Exactly. The skills transfer.

Just because you’re showing your… you know… online doesn’t mean that’s the only thing you bring to the table.

Lilly: There are a lot of skills involved.

Stalara: Absolutely.

Wrapping Up

Gary: I have to say, thank you so much for doing this. I learned a lot.

Lilly: Me too.

Gary: I’m actually interested in checking out Fanbase now because I’ve never used it.

Stalara: You guys can message me anytime if you want to learn about something, or if you want to do this again. I’m down for anything.

Gary: I might hit you up because I want to learn about Telegram too. I know nothing about Telegram.

Stalara: I can teach you.

Lilly: If you want to include me, I want to learn too.

Gary: We’re all learning together.

Stalara: Being on this podcast feels like home. I’m not going to lie. It feels nice to be appreciated.

Gary: I’m glad.

I want to do this live sometime, too. Maybe we can do another episode live.

Stalara: I’d like that.

Lilly: Absolutely.

Gary: That’s the attitude. You just got me hyped up.

Stalara: Hell yeah.

Gary: So, Stalara, where can everyone find you?

Stalara: You can find me on Instagram and Facebook. Honestly, if you Google “St. Mynx,” you’ll find me. You can also search “Stalara Mynx” and you’ll find all my links.

Gary: That’s a lesson all cam girls should know. Branding.

Just Google me.

Stalara: Exactly.

Gary: Lilly, what about you?

Lilly: You can find me on Sex Panther as LilyLair and on Instagram as LilyLair. I’m Lilly Leclare across the board.

Gary: Exactly. Just Google yourself. Easy.

Lilly: Yep.

Gary: Both of you are smart. I like it.

Thank you both for being here. We’ll definitely do this again sometime.

Until next time, peace out!

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